How To Effectively Set Your Goals…

“You have to participate relentlessly in the manifestation of your blessings”

Write down your goals. When it comes to setting goals you have to be extremely clear about what you want and why you want it, in the utmost detail. Writing down your goals is the first step to effectively reaching them. When you are sure about what you want and put it down in writing, you increase the odds of achieving it. The Universe simply has no choice but to bring it to you. The Law of Attraction tells us that ‘like attracts like’ and the moment you sit down and put your dreams or goals on paper, you are consciously making the declaration and setting the intention.

Be specific. What do you want? Why do you want it? Does it have purpose and do you have a purpose? How badly do you want it? Are you willing to fight, sometimes surrender to be who you want to become or get what you want? At this point many people let fear creep in and they become scared to dream big because somehow the goal may seem unattainable. Perhaps it may look like it will take too long or it’s just too big. I urge you to dream big no matter how crazy or how unrealistic it may seem. Always make sure you ask yourself why you want something, eliminate the need to do something because of other people, competition or whats trending.

Visualise. See yourself with what you want, living that dream, living in your purpose. How does it feel? Are you fulfilled and what does that look like? See yourself. You are worthy. Yes, know deeply in your heart that you are worthy of reaching that goal. If in doubt, fake it. Fake it until it really begins to feel real. Feel the happiness, feel all the highs of living your dream or reaching your goals… feel it like it’s already happened.

Gratitude. Be in a state of gratitude. Be thankful to God, the Universe, for conspiring to make everything work in your favour for your highest good. Although it may have not manifested in the physical yet, but best believe you have already received it in the spiritual. So feel the feeling and awe of being grateful. Continue to praise and thank for the manifestation of your goal. Be thankful.

Match the vibration. Only focus on behaving like your goal has already manifested. The way you think, dress, talk and behave should reflect the the type of standard only accepted by that person who’s already living the said dream.. Take daily steps to match the vibration. For example, if your goal is financial freedom, then match the vibration by having an abundant mindset, you cannot say ‘i’m broke, i don’t have enough, that’s too expensive’ etc.. Your mindset and behaviour should shift to ‘the Universe is abundant, money is in constant flow, i have what i want when i need it’ and you can shift your behaviour by sharing more or not being stingy ect..

Surrender. Now surrender, Release the need to control how your goal manifests. Believe that you have already reached your goal in the spiritual and you’re only waiting for it to manifest in the physical. Its already yours. Doubts may try to creep in but rest in knowing that your blessing is on its way in the physical. By doubting, you confuse the Universe and send the vibration that you don’t to reach your goal or you’re not capable and deserving. Remember everything is energy. So surrender and continue to be in a positive state of mind.

Its all yours. I’m rooting for you!

Love Nothando x

Be honest with yourself…

‘’Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest’’ -Brene Brown

I  must admit in this social media age it is so easy to get caught up behind the façade of faking appearances. With our Instagram pages coordinated to the t and everything appearing somewhat perfect, we may find ourselves forgetting that things may not always be as they seem and life is never really perfect, I believe the true beauty of life lies in its imperfections.

Yes everyone knows that things are not always as they seem on social media but we may find ourselves desperately trying to keep up appearances while deep down we are losing it or we may be guilty of comparing our lives, not being satisfied or in the extreme cases feeling depressed because our lives and social Instagram pages are not as pretty as the next girl.

In order to begin the journey to personal development and transformation, I believe its extremely important to be honest with yourself. Sit down, grab yourself a pen and a notepad, a cup of tea or if you’re like me, that bottle of Barefoot’s Pink Moscato, pour yourself a glass and really think. Think of where you are in life right now, be honest to yourself about the stage you’re at. What are your flaws and what do you need to work on in order to reach your goals? Are you reckless with spending? Do you suffer from the fear of missing out? Do you indulge a little too much in gossip? Do you procrastinate and find yourself distracting yourself with endless social media scrolling or are you just not living up to your true potential and scared to take the necessary steps?

Being honest with yourself about where you are right now makes it clearer for you to figure out where you want to go and what steps you need to take in order to get there. I will always mention this, no one is perfect (although some hide it more than others) we are all on a journey, trying our hardest to be the best we can. Being honest about where you are in life will not only ground you and be that reality check but it will motivate you and propel you towards being that phenomenal woman that your higher self is desperately cheering you on to become.

You can do this babe!

Love Nothando x

(visuals from Solange Knowles’ Cranes in the Sky) *I do not own any rights to these images*

Welcome.. a journey begins

So I’ve finally decided to create a women’s empowerment platform. This step has been rather daunting I must admit, there’s women empowerment groups EVERYWHERE and so many blogs on the internet! Yet somehow I feel I have a lot to share, women to reach and lives to change.

I have a story worth sharing, lessons worth mentioning and although I’m still on my phenomenal woman journey, I feel that creating this platform will not only empower and uplift others but it will also empower myself to walk my talk and live my truth.

So I encourage you to walk this journey with me, lets be phenomenal together. On this blog I will discuss personal development and transformation, levelling up, self love, financial freedom, relationships and spirituality. Consider me that sister that will give you loving advice, motivation and sometimes the cold hard truth that will force you into a more positive way of thinking.

I also welcome your input, so leave comments, message me and voice your opinions. This is a platform for you and me after all.

love Nothando x